
She looked worn, thin, and sad yet resolute as she addressed a video camera. That video captured her address to the world. The world: some of whom had manufactured malicious rumors, some who had wished her well, and some who were benignly disinterested.
Since her publicly recognized association with the future king on the U.K. she has been pursued, hounded, written about, photographed, and generally had her entire life and family invaded. Love is blind. She happened to fall in love with the gentleman who also loved her. She has reaped benefits that nobility and wealth can only bestow. The price that she has paid is exceedingly high.
Beyond the beautiful gowns, jewels, horse drawn carriages, gala events, associations with the world’s leaders, and power, there is a young woman who loves her children and who needs some time to herself.
She has had to conform to the royal protocol and went all in to learn, assimilate, and be the best possible representative of the “family”Firm.” Not a hair is out of place, not a wrinkle shows on her dresses, and not a scuff appears on her shoes. She held countless bouquets with a smile, even when she did not feel like smiling. She wore four-inch heels when nine moths pregnant. She walked miles in stilettos to represent the best to the world. She was pictured smiling at galas, meetings, and patronages while she was experiencing the terrible effects of hyperemesis gravidarum .
She has been betrayed by “members” of the royal family with bad manners and misrepresentations. She endured a most uncomfortable funeral for the Queen, whom she loved. Her jaw was clenched for hours under the delicate black veil of her fashionable hat. She could not express emotion and refused to communicate with her husband’s brother and his wife, whose mission was to destroy her family.
Last year she was criticized for being too fashionable and taking attention from the King and his heir. She accommodated by changing her image. She “dressed down” by letting her hair grow longer and looked more working-motherisih. The style and fashion repression she endures is unthinkable.
Whatever was asked, she has made Herculean efforts to accommodate. At what price? Her health. Anxiety can often impact one’s gastrointestinal system – think nausea and vomiting when stressed – imagine living that was daily. Her hyperemesis gravidarum could very possibly been produced by her unceasing public review. Her sister, Pippa, did not experience this condition.
Behind the perfect smile and under the gorgeous garments is a heart beating with the stress of the required perfection. Despite incredible efforts for a perfect image, the body’s chemistry copes by secreting hormones. Could the recently detected malignancy be a result of nearly two decades of unrelenting microscopic inspection of every hair follicle and hand gesture with no privacy?
Why is the royal family of the UK fodder for invasive journalism? Who stripped them of their privacy? Other royal families have relative privacy. Yes, the royals must be seen. Must they be “seen” incessantly? How do these humans recharge their energy? They are pursued with long lenses like safari animals. Their intimate moments are invaded. Yet, her pursuers have private moments and times. The public need not know how often they sneeze, “relax,” play with their children; argue. They are human. Perfection is impossible.
The voracious journalists must become creative in their reporting and find other fodder. They hounded the Princes’ mother to her death. This time, given her husband’s extraordinary efforts to protect her, it might be slower. The Princess is not obligated to disclose every biological situation that affects her. For those who questioned it, she appears to be very much present. Leave her alone to deal with her situation privately so that she can regain her health. Her road is very difficult. She must be afforded the respect and curtesy of privacy. She must have time to set aside the tiaras and gowns and focus on her recovery – spiritually, emotionally, and physically, as she so poignantly asked.
The relentless pursuit of images and stories is destroying this lovely woman from the inside. “Back off” must be the message to the press.
Sadly, her lonely image on the wooden bench resembled a dog that had been hit by a car and left. She deserves better than this. This woman is not a Disney princess who is always accessible. She is a flesh and blood woman who bleeds if she is pricked, who gasps if being suffocated, who will die if poisoned, and who will hide in the light of relentless pursuit.
The resounding silence from her pursuers is deafening. May it remain this way.
We wish the Princess a full and permanent recovery




































